The reasons why gay men sucks at dating

Came across this interesting article titled "The reasons why gay men suck at dating" and he raised up few points that we can benefit from even if just a bit. Gonna list down what he said and give my own opinion where needed =P

1. Gay guys are boys until they turn 30

I dont really agree with it as maturity is up to each individual, not a general assumption for every single gays out there. U can be 23 and act like u have three previous lives or 40 but whine like a baby and really, there's nothing wrong to settle down early once u have seen it all.

2. We refuse to sacrifice anything

Something I'm sure we all can relate for. In this regard, we need to take the middle ground, neither the end of any extreme. U can't sacrifice everything to the point u're nothing more than a shell of your former self but at the same time, u musn't be too selfish either. If u think u're losing, think of it this way; when u sacrifice something, u will get something back from what he sacrificed for u as well. Compromise is a two-way street.

3. We are too afraid of feeling vulnerable

To love means to put ourselves out there, ready to be hurt. There's no other way to define it but trust me; all the pain, all the bleeding and sleepless night, the heartbreak and tear falling down, it will all worth it when u find someone that will embrace u tightly and heal u from inside out.

4. We are unclear of our intentions

This is quite a problem among us Asian as we are not as outspoken as the westerners in general. We tend to hide our feeling and always beat around the bush. Speak up doesn't make u arrogant. It means u know what u want and portrays your confidence.

5. We've become nomadic

All I can say is, at one point of your life, u have to decide where u want to settle down. There are people out there who love to move around and never anchor to any place but the chance for u to find them is really minuscule.

6. Money rules our emotional availability

Well, they said it's better to cry in a Mercedes but what's the point if u have to slave yourself to pay back the debt?

7. Hookup apps are becoming the norm

Honestly, I don't get his point for this XD hahahahaha

To sum up, I give u the one line in this article that speaks to me most;

"Though it might seem hot and steamy in the movies, the average film is only two hours long. Compare that to a long term relationship full of ups, downs, and turnarounds."

Love,
me