When someone close to u; family, friend, your significant other, has a problem and they don't come to u or your name doesn't cross their mind at all, what would u feel?
It would have seen to me that I am not viewed as important as I thought I am or they just didn't trust me enough to confide in me of their problem. It's not the matter of whether I can offer any help or not but rather it's the act of whether u tell or not that matter more.
They don't really have to tell in detail especially when it involves work as it comes with secrecy and whatnot but the least they can do is to acknowledge that they are having certain problem. By that, u would know that they are behaving that way because their mind are preoccupied with something at that moment.
But if it's something that they can share about and get some insight from u, it's more the reason to do so. FYI, it's not a shame to ask for some little helps from people around u whenever u are in trouble. It doesn't make u look weak or desperate or incapable. We are human, we need each other to survive. Nobody can boast that he doesn't need anyone. When u need help, ask for it and don't be embarrassed by it.
And trust me, never ever say that u aren't telling me your problem because u don't want to trouble or bother me. There's no greater insult that u can ever throw to me especially if I consider u as a close friend or my partner.
Well, that's just my two penny. Ciao!
Love,
me
we can never understand fully another person's perspective. and it would do a lot of good to also not make assumptions about why they do/ don't do certain things. will save a lot of unnec tensions at times.
ReplyDeletebut yeah, totally understand how you feel.
yeah, I realised that we can't and shouldn't make assumption cos we will never be in other people shoe but in the end, we are just mere human; still affected by emotion every now and then =)
DeleteSometimes, people just have a different perspective in asking. Maybe you should be a little bit more well, I don't know , welcoming in these issues? I've been around and people do tell me its easier to open up stuffs to me compared to a few other people. It might just be the way I dealt with them to make them feel more comfortable?
ReplyDeleteSo yea, people are different. Maybe we can look into how we can make them more comfortable first?
yeah true, they will open up more to people they are comfortable with but then if someone is close enough to u to begin with, shouldn't that mean he/she is comfortable enough already for u to classify them as ur close friend or even family member.
DeleteNonetheless, I do get ur point