One week away from here. All because my stupid laptop chose to die at the worst time ever =.= Have to get a new one in a very short notice or I'm toasted.
Anyway, happy new year to anyone who celebrate it and happy birthday to everyone XD hehe
Let's get back to what in my mind before it slips away again. Let's talk bout secret
We have our dark side. Every single one of us. Skeleton in the closet. Most of the times, it ain't a harmful one, just something we prefer others not to catch wind about it but for some, it might be more than that.
No secret in a relationship; doesn't that sound familiar?
Countless time we been told that when u find ur other half, u will share everything from the happiest moment to the time where u feel u are better off dead. What u know, he will know and vice versa. To certain point, u guys will share ur facebook password and he can check ur phone without u betting eyelid.
But, should it be that way?
In general, I don't think it will be appropriate. He becomes part of ur life but that's the thing; it is just one part of ur life. U have family that u might want them not to know about him yet. Friends that know u but not him. Friends that confide to u secret that they hope nobody else won't know.
Imagine a scenario; Le bf is going through ur phone as always, just scrolling here and there when suddenly a message pops out. A close friend of urs just texted u saying he got afflicted with something and he is depressed yada yada yada but u must not tell anyone else but Le bf has seen it cos he was playing with ur phone at that time.
Yes, u have absolute trust on ur bf but that doesn't mean the same to ur friend. He knows u, not ur partner. U can't force them to accept him the way u accept him.
I will leave it at that. There will be some counter-argument to whatever I put up there but don't want to make this post long and windy.
So take it or leave it, bitch =P hahahahah
Love,
me
Depends on how everyone takes secret in their ways. The bf looking into the messages would be, well, yea. It's very controversial, but it really depends on each party's intention in looking into the message.
ReplyDeleteI can't really think of an excuse for anyone to look into message, not even one acceptable intention XD lol
DeleteAs long as both partners know the boundaries and with good trust, all is good in my opinion lol.
ReplyDeletethat's the irony of it. If u really trust ur other half, u wont be bother to check at all =D LOLOLOL
DeleteFor me, I will always have certain boundaries even with my bf. There is something worth sharing but at the same time, there is a limit to what we share. Defo not to share fb password, phone etc :)
ReplyDeletehahaha yeah true. it's not really bout trust but more about respecting other ppl privacy that u dont know
DeleteBitch =) Lol... hmm..a very interesting yet tricky issue. Passwords/phones/messages vs. trust/agreements/jealously
ReplyDeleteyes my bitch? hahahaha
DeleteU wont need to know if u trust. This is a boundary that u have to set on urself. Must know our limit
its about respect vs trust. a good balance is needed.
ReplyDeleteI think in a relationship, it's not about balance. U dont really say u have this much of trust on ur bf. It's either u trust him or not; no 'a little' or 'a lot'.
DeleteErmmmmm.... Knowing the boundaries is good enough.
ReplyDeletesomething that ppl overlook most of the times. As if getting into a relationship give u 100% access to everything
DeleteIt's always like that one lar....
ReplyDeletealways like what my dear? hehe =D
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