Someone lamented no one was free to celebrate his birthday with him even though he has been doing the same for them. This is quite a tricky situation to defuse, so I chose not to comment too much to him and just listened.
I've been through the same emotional turmoil before as well. For me, I always try to remember and celebrate those that are close to me and honestly part of me, at that time, wished they would reciprocate it when my birthday comes. When they didn't, I started to overthink and assume that they didn't appreciate my effort and time and just taken me for granted.
That's where I was wrong.
They have never asked me to celebrate or plan for their birthday, in the first place; if I am to do so, it is out of my own volition. So, I shouldn't be expecting them to reciprocate when they have no obligation to do so.
Live and let be.
Love,
me
To celebrate or not, it doesn't matter. Your birthday doesn't associate to those who weren't there for you when you was born. Choose to spend this very special day with your parents instead. They are the one who brought you to this world.
ReplyDeleteI never celebrated my birthday with anyone except my family for the past 8 years. It didn't strike me that being celebrated is of importance. What worth celebrating, not the fancy gift you get, is the year you get to live by to see another.
Avoid overthink. Only real friend with remember your birthday. And I never wish anyone just because of their birthday. I am not obligated to do so.
Yup true and my family rarely celebrates other than just buying a cake and eat. So, I don't plan much for anyone else also. Usually it's just a meal nowadays and a lot of chatting till late :D
Deleteremember my birthday.
ReplyDelete10/11
DeleteI mean celebrate with me. Lots of balloon, stripper and so on
ReplyDeleteJust do good....with no expectation of reciprocation. Good things will come to you.
ReplyDeletehonestly, this post made me think and i had to come back to the page to leave this comment. i think it might not be fair to expect reciprocity but it surely isn't wrong to hope for it. i think if you really mean something to a person, they would want to demonstrate that in whichever capacity. if you don't feel appreciated even in the slightest then you'd already know where you stand with people and that's not a bad thing either.
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