Is it necessary to imitate the other half?
That's what I have been observing whenever guys get into relationship. Somehow, they start to lose their own identity and instead, start becoming like their other half. Initially, it's their outer appearance; the way they dress, the way they walk, the way they do their hair. Heck, they even wear the same color every single time and make a huge deal out of it. In my mind I was thinking, "Oh please bitch, you set it beforehand. Why the need to make it like a miracle he turns out the same color as you?"
Slowly, their thinking evolves, or should I say devolve instead. To look exactly the same is bad enough; to not have their own thought is even worse. All of their mind revolve around the other half and him alone. It's about pleasing him and obsessing all about him while continuing to live. After going through few relationships and observing others, I realize one small thing; if you can't behave around your other half the way you do with your friends, most likely it won't last long.
I suppose the brain can't bear the burden of having split personality.
Let's not even start on those who disappear once they are attached.
Love,
me
i believe when you get into long-term relationship, as in more than 3 years, both personality will eventually be similar. That what learning from each other is.
ReplyDeletelearning should enhance our own personality instead of becoming similar. I wish I won't turn out similar with my boyfriend
DeleteI guess it can be both good and bad. Over time people tend to do things similarly because they start to know each other more? But for the sake of pleasing another by completely changing oneself is , well, extreme.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the last part though I wish people will remain unique, each single one of them :D
DeleteHappy blowing by the way hahaha :P
I find it a bit sweet somehow. Haha! :) But of course, there should be a balance. One shouldn't lose his/her identity in a relationship. :)
ReplyDeletehaha a little bit is always welcomed because too big of a gap might cause friction in the long run. Yeah that's right, balance is always the key in any relationship
Delete"Let's not even start on those who disappear once they are attached."
ReplyDeleteMy pet peeve is people who are super secretive about who they are dating.
Some guys have this superstition that if they tell people about their date,it gonna jinxed the date (when all these while it's their problem) LOL
Deleteinsecurities? like - what if i tell and then you steal my bf away?
Deletehahha... shitstirrer...
:-)
lololol if the guy is so easily stolen, I don't want as well hahaha
Deletemy partner and i have been together for about 13years and we are still totally different... but i supposed we accommodate each other as much as we can.
ReplyDeletei think in mature relationships, it's a case of knowing each other and accommodating each other's idiosyncrasies while keeping each other's space. and if couples can do that, their relationship will last. otherwise, it will be very difficult for either party to loose sense of his own identity and ultimately one party will loose it...
my thoughts.
yup I agree to your POV. It's about complementing each other. We both are complete, it's the matter of bringing it a step higher
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